#2. Today, I regret saying "yes" in the first place

Just in from shopping with my mom all day, mainly for Christmas dinner; I'm on Facebook and checking my emails when the phone rings.

“Hey, what are you doing?”
I explain casually.
“Do you wanna go to the ball game?”
Ut oh, I think to myself. This is my ex who wants to be my current and he knows I have a weakness for good food & sports.
“So what time is the game?”
“7”
It is already 6:05 pm. He did not leave me much time to think about this did he? First sign. My brain attempts to balance this out – basketball on one hand – no drama on the other. What do I do?
“Hello, are you there?”
Still thinking about whether I can enjoy the company for 45 minutes to the game, two-hours of the game, and 45 minutes back; and do I actually have time to slip on some jeans and my game shirt? I think I can do it. Shucks, it is only a game.
“Yeah, I think I can I can pull myself together, what time are you coming by?”
“I will be there fairly soon.”
“Okay.”

Click! As soon as I get off the phone I feel completely conflicted, for so many reasons. I immediately call back with a nice apology and a short explanation about why I cannot accept his invitation. With the press of the talk button to hang up, I felt relieved. Yes, relieved, like I was off the hook (unintentional pun).

Then what do you know? He calls me back with ATTITUDE. Now, I know without equivocation, I had made the right decision.
“So why did you change your mind?”
“I already obligated myself to some other people and it is a matter of integrity.”
“You will be back by 9pm, it can’t wait?”
At this point, I am getting a little peeved because he is questioning me, but I politely respond.
“Hey, I apologize again. I should never have agreed without thinking this through.”
“Do you have another date?”
That is it. He is officially on my last nerve.
“No I don’t and I would not be afraid to tell you if I did. I really need to go. Have fun.”

A clear signal, clarity, about what can happen when you make a decision without peace; especially when it involves past relationships. I do not blame him for having a plan. Unfortunately for him, it no longer works for me. But for a moment there I was about to fall back into an old practice for momentary satisfaction. Can I get a witness? In the end, I am glad to know that this was my only regret.

If this were to happen again, and it will. At that first sign of uneasiness, I would make certain to decline quickly!!!

Regrettably yours,